Boundary Basics

As therapist and author Anne Katherine (2000) puts it, boundaries are “limits that promote integrity.” They’re not about shutting people out or telling others what to do, they’re about protecting your peace, values, and energy. Nedra Glover Tawwab (2021), author of...

People Pleasing & The Fawn Response

Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no,” apologized for things that weren’t your fault, or put someone else’s comfort ahead of your own? These can be signs of the fawn response, one way the nervous system reacts to perceived threat. What Is the Fawn...

Attachment & Breakups

Breakups are hard. Whether it ended with a whisper or a bang, the aftermath can stir up everything from grief and longing to numbness or relief. Your attachment style might shape how you try to cope and help you understand what you might need to cope. Anxious...

Conflict

When most couples argue about what happened they argue from very different emotional states. If you’ve ever felt like a conflict spiraled faster than you could think, or like your partner just shut down and disappeared emotionally, your attachment style and nervous...

Attachment & Dating

Dating can feel like emotional whiplash. One minute you’re swapping memes and feeling hopeful, the next you’re ghosted by someone who seemed really into it. If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels so triggering (or why you keep ending up in the same patterns) your...

Attachment Styles

Why do some people crave closeness while others pull away? Why do relationships that seem to have all the right ingredients still leave one or both partners feeling misunderstood or anxious? The answer often lies in our attachment styles, patterns of relating that...