1. Therapy is sometimes hard in the beginning. Sometimes it gets harder before it gets better. Brings up trauma memories or more anxiety/depression. Stick with it. You have to feel it to heal it.
2. Getting professional support will pay you back dividends. Why are people so willing to invest time and money into vacations, clothes, going out— but not their mental health? Your investment into counseling/coaching will give you so much for freedom and joy in the long run. Make sure you’re understanding your priorities and what you value most in your life.
3. It’s not about healing your “disorders” or what’s wrong with you— it’s about healing your nervous system. You’re not crazy. You just haven’t learned to regulate your nervous system. No one taught you that. I can.
4. All couples should spend some time together in counseling/coaching. Preferably someone trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy. It’s not about what’s wrong with your relationship or fixing your partner. It’s about learning your attachment styles, core wounds, and how to communicate feelings/needs in a healthy way coming from a place of ownership not blame. Chances are, no one taught you that either.
5. Those friends and family members that you don’t place boundaries with hurts your mental health more than you realize. I see so many people afraid to communicate and set boundaries with others. Because they are scared, feel guilty, feel obligated, or have tried and it didn’t work. Get some support around this. So much freedom, self respect and peace is on the other side of creating a safe place for yourself.
